The relationship tends to become a bit of a long deep track of repeated passage after the couple has done navigating a dating relationship into the long term. The sweet, clingy couple will be replaced by ultimate tensions and crucial satisfaction. It’s the pleasant things that were present at the beginning of the relationship that fades. It doesn’t always come to be identical with the one you have had started because at times it gets rotted. So as time goes on and you both feel too comfortable with each other, there is a risk that someone will be too laid back and stop putting in any effort. These simple and self-reminder tips are like common sense, yet many have forgotten about its importance.
Communication is Essential
Never go to bed without fixing things. Talk to each other and sort things out. No matter how well you know the mood swings and the characteristics of one another, you can never read your partner’s mind. As one, you need to communicate clearly to avoid quarrels and misunderstandings that may lead to resentment and confusion. It is important to express the thoughts that weigh between you and your partner, whether they’re positive or negative. Just talk. Being in a relationship doesn’t always have to be like a guessing game, thoughts after thoughts may lead to overthinking, so if you’re uncertain about something try to discuss it with your partner and contextualize. You may have misheard or misinterpreted; at least you both reach out.
A simple ‘thank you’ can light someone’s day. It might be as simple as thanking your partner for washing the dishes or throwing out your trash or for making you a good cup of coffee the way you like it –is one true foundation of having a good partner. Acknowledging someone’s love and kindness to whatever extent is the best feeling one of you should feel, or at least to the both of you. In relationships, there are always tough times, and being aware of every wonderful thing your partner does is such a relief, knowing you are both trying to be the backbone of one another even sometimes you just don’t feel like doing anything good.
Respect Each Other’s ‘ME TIME’
Whether you’ve been together 24 hours a day or twice a week, whatever your setup is, alone time is important. I understand if you’re too attached to your partner and cannot make it through the day without them. Togetherness is essential, but one needs space for them too. Being together means having to share almost everything with your partner, and I bet you both even smell the same. But too much time spending together can result in a dull moment. And we don’t want that to happen. Being with your partner all the time feels like your personal space is always invaded and that’s the moment you’ll become irritated. Spending time alone is what everyone needs for personal growth, reflection, contemplation, and meditation. Peace of mind is important and when you achieve that your relationship with each other becomes deeper and you will appreciate more of your partner being away after having space. If you’re living together, one might at least have their individual spaces that you can retreat to such as separate working spaces, library, yoga space, or garage workshop.
Maintain Your Individuality
Once the levels of comfort have reached in a relationship, you’ll get to be the closest, and suddenly the behavior changes. We may admit that some things that we do in the past will never be consistent along the way. When the first stages of the relationship have spent hours preparing for dinner, making sure to smell good before your partner will arrive, and dressing up to impress during the first few visits, doesn’t always work the same. However, consistency of those things may not be followed at times because we think that no matter how we look, smell and act will always be okay with our partner. After all, sooner they will get used to it. Being able to reach with that lever of solace means you’re well-suited. But this level shouldn’t change your partner’s impression because you’re no longer doing pleasant things in front of one another. This doesn’t mean you neglect your hygiene because your partner doesn’t judge you if your morning breath lasts until midnight, and your pizza boxes are all over the floor. Don’t let that happen. Don’t let your partner know that you’re not paying enough effort for yourself anymore.
Share Interests In Each Others Interest
The heights of discomforts will be reduced if you will try to open each other’s interest and share things. However, you don’t have to adjust if your partner’s interest doesn’t match yours. Meet halfway. If you mean the world to your partner, one will always have the time to make it with you. You can binge-watch each other’s favorite movies and discuss them or you can hike together. The feeling of pursuing things together will create a greater bond as you get to know each other even better.
Validate Their Ideas, Admit When You’re Wrong
This time, let your partner finish what he/she has to say. If you disagree, learn to acknowledge their ideas in the smoothies possible you can. If it may be difficult to validate someone’s line of thinking if it does not match yours, perhaps you should learn to give way and respect what they got. Avoid acting like you’re always in-the-know, if you think you only know a bit of information on that topic, just admit it and be teachable. If you think you’ve been wronged with an issue, don’t trash talk to your partner because they know better. Listen and understand what they got for you, that’s well you can measure your partner’s intelligence. And if you insist, you’re just proving yourself a pouty little jerk and immature.
Have Trust In Your Partner
You can love the person back but cannot regain the same trust twice. Trust issues in a relationship have always a back story, may it come from both of your pasts. Trust and faith always work in contrast. If you’ve been cheated from your past or your partner has cheated on you and you can get back the trust you had given, admit that you’re uncomfortable with that feeling. Don’t act weirdly or as if you’re okay when you’re not. The truth is, things may have changed the moment you accept that your partner isn’t perfect, but learn to acknowledge that they’re trying even if the account has been ruined. Oh, man! That person loves you!
Leave The Past Behind
Sometimes the root of many arguments is when your partner tries to retrieve all your past and throw it a millionth time. That’s hard! No one wants to hear losses or wrongdoings over and over. So, if you might realize you’re starting to dig in again, just stop! Don’t refer things back during an argument, learn to grow, and never look back. If you argue with a certain thing, just hate that thing and don’t hate any other. Don’t always try to assume that just because something happened in the past will happen again, especially if you notice that person has changed.
Be Open, Be Honest
How about being open to your partner of almost everything? Remember, one being lied to will know that something’s wrong and hidden. Avoid making your partner feel suspicious. If being honestly open makes your partner know the real truth even if it hurts will change your feeling for them over time. If honesty doesn’t make you less as a person then go and tell them all your bad sides, because strong people understand that you’re ultimately hearing your conscience and repenting for what you’ve done. If you think it must be the most serious matter that would break your relationship, do not be afraid to tell your intentions, even if the result will not favor your side and the consequence makes you suffer. Whatever that is, you should be accountable for any lies. After all, if the love of your life understands and accepts all your flaws, you will always have the spot in their hearts and that is ‘forgiveness.’