In life, it seems the normal path is to keep with the expectations of your family. Here, in the Philippines, it is expected that you remain with your family after you have graduated from college. Many people choose to do what their family expects of them but I chose a different path. After graduation, I immediately left our parent’s house and went on to explore the world. Everything went really well! In this article today, I am going to talk about the benefits of moving out of your parent’s house and how your own freedom of personal choice can lead you down a fulfilling path in life.
Peace and quiet
Life in a family home can be full of distractions and with so many people around it can be really hard to get peace and quiet. Not only will you be able to live in a much more quiet and peaceful space, but your parents will too with fewer people around the house to make noise. Being in charge of your own home means that you will be responsible for your own chores and cleaning. Your parents will have no power to nag and shout at you to get household chores done. Living away from home can alleviate tension and stress between you and your parents regarding household tasks. Your parents will likely enjoy the peace they have away from you too. After all, they have completed their parental obligations towards you and they will likely look forward to a more peaceful life. Of course, you can still visit them from time to time. In fact, your relationship with your parents can be one of mutual respect if you no longer have to be nagged at by them. Showing your parents that you are perfectly capable of maintaining a schedule of household chores in your home will show them that you are a grown adult who makes responsible choices and you will likely be respected for that.
Freedom
Under the watchful eye of your parents, it can be extremely challenging to just experiment with life and find out who you really are. Being in charge of your own life and being able to make your own choices leads to a fulfilling life of self-discovery. Not everything you do will be positive and you will have to take the good with the bad, but at least you have the freedom to learn from your mistakes. It can be so easy for parents to dictate what they want their perfect child to look like so living alone will give you the freedom to break the mold and decide for yourself who exactly you want to be. There will be no curfews or set rules, so you are the master of your own fate. You will have the freedom to break the rules and push limits, but you will also be able to decide who you are, who your friends are, and what defining features of your life you want to stay. Sure, you can go out and drink and smoke but you can also have the opportunity to see the world and discover amazing things. The freedom of choice is yours and it is your choice to live with kindness and integrity or not.
Sense of Pride
The increased sense of freedom opens up the doors for an increased level of pride. You can finally look at everything you own and your life and feeling proud of what you have achieved. You can set your own limits and decide the pace of your life – whether you want to speed through things or slow down, it is up to you. You can bask in your accomplishments knowing that your choices lead you there. It can be so easy to have a life dictated for you when living at home. With so many decisions under the watchful eye of your parents, it can be so easy to feel that your accomplishments belong to them and not yourself. You can come home with pride and show your family how proud you are of all your wonderful achievements. It may be hard work to finally be responsible for your life on your own, but your motivation will come from the fact that you will be so proud of your own achievements at the end of the day.
Be your own person
Things will go wrong and things will go right, but at the end of the day, you are the master of your own life now. You will finally know how to handle tough situations and your confidence in yourself will increase. You will be able to hear and listen to your own thoughts, not ones dictated to you by your family. There is nothing stronger than being able to live by your own convictions and choices. You will relish in the opportunity to make good choices and build yourself a life that suits yourself, personally. The way you deal with conflict and hardship is a huge part of who you are as a person and will lead down the path of more self-discovery. You can be your authentic self and whoever you want to be.
Overall, moving out was amazing for me and it can be amazing for you too. You don’t need to meet society’s norms to live a happy and fulfilling life. Having the freedom to make your own choices is empowering. When you are alone you can choose to be a good person or a horrible person, but at the end of the day, you will know the outcome of your life is a result of the choices you have made. The most important thing is to live with integrity and kindness and put that mantra into everything you do. Moving out into the world is not a betrayal to your parents, it allows them to see you for who you actually are and they will be proud of everything you have managed to achieve in the great wide world!
